Posted by: scentandviolet November 10th, 2017

How do you relationship? Are you any good? Would you like to improve a bit? 

Scent & Violet is honored to welcome Peter Minkoff of Pridezillas Magazine, to help us become better in today's relationships with this fabulous article. As wedding and lifestyle writer, Peter brings experience and some common sense wisdom to our complicated world of relationships. Make sure to check out his other work in Pridezillas Magazine, or follow him on twitter @minkoffpeter

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Scent & Violet

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How to Make Your Loved One Feel Special Every Day

Grand gestures are great. They’re also most likely to be seen in romantic comedies. The hero or heroine has done something almost unforgivable, and the grand gesture is their last chance at romantic redemption. Real relationships are cannot be crammed into a two-hour movie montage and there is no end once the credits roll. They take everyday effort. In order to keep the fire of romance burning, you need to show your loved one that you appreciate them every single day. A grand gesture, when you think about it, is easy, it is a long-term commitment that takes patience, love and everyday tokens of that love. So, if you’re at a loss for ideas, worry not; these simple yet effective tips won’t only help you get your romance mojo back, but will also spark your imagination and help create your very own ideas. Today, we’re giving the fish but also teaching you how to fish.

Every day is a special occasion

It’s not your loved ones’ birthday or a significant anniversary, but so what? That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t surprise them every chance you get. The gift doesn’t need to be expensive or extravagant. It can be anything in the world – show your love and romance with flowers, chocolate or a silly thing that is part of an inside joke. It can be something they saw in a shop window and mentioned they like – this will get you an additional ‘listening and paying attention points’. Surprise them at work with an amazing fruit and gourmet gift basket. This is an incredible gift, because they can share it with the rest of the office and again, you get extra points for being an attentive partner even in the eyes of your loved one’s coworkers.

A lost art

The one thing we all need to bring back in style is love letters and cards. No one puts pen to paper anymore, and it is such a shame because there is nothing more romantic than written declarations of love and devotion. Yes, you could send an email, but years from now, opening your inbox to reminisce doesn’t exactly scream romance. Take the time, write a letter, write a card and express your feelings in writing. Not only will your loved one feel the warmth around their heart now, but those cards will be saved in a special box and you can always take a romantic walk down memory lane even when you’re much older.

Be on top of your game

Even if you’re with a person who always tells you they don’t want to make a big deal about their birthday, they do. Everyone, with no exceptions, appreciates being celebrated, and even if that celebration doesn’t include an extravagant over-the-top party, it can still be an elegant evening spent with your closest friends. In order to take things to a new level and make the evening absolutely unforgettable, hiring a great cocktail catering company is a must. Go out of your way to create a classy and elegant event, complete with decorations, great music and great catering. Every detail is like an additional ‘I love you’.

Talk is not cheap

When your actions match your words, then no, talk is not cheap. While it is true that actions speak louder than words, make no mistake, words matter. In the morning, before the two of you head out to work, make sure to take the time a compliment your partner’s appearance. Boost their self-confidence and show that you’re always paying attention. Ask them how their day was, that shows you genuinely care. If the day was good, throw a mini celebration in the form of drinks or dinner. If the day is bad, do the same but as a cheer-up strategy. In any case, always ask, and react accordingly. Never diminish your loved one’s success or their failures. The best part – if you do this for them, they will surely reciprocate, because this kind of attention is a gift that just keeps on giving.

Play

If the two of you are living together chances are you spend most of your evenings in. Once two people move in together they tend to ‘nest’ in their apartment and become unwilling to leave the warmth of the home they built together. However, it is vital to shake things up a bit every now and then. Don’t leave things to chance, designate a weekly date-night and take one another out. It can be a walk, going to the movies, dinner, dancing, whatever you like. Just, dress up for each other and make sure you knock on the door and pretend you’ve come to pick your loved one up for a date.

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Peter is a wedding and lifestyle writer for Pridezillas magazine. Follow Peter on Twitter for more tips.